How travelling helped me to connect with my feminine energy
- Sassy Travels
- Aug 13
- 6 min read
Updated: Aug 15
Today's post is more of a personal one, and one for those who love self-development and personal growth. While I love a good travel guide and practical tips, the best part of travelling for me is always the expansion and personal growth that comes with exploring new places and stepping outside of my comfort zone.
The feminine and masculine energies have been a hot topic on social media lately. There are lots of posts and conversations around them, and even more misunderstandings and misconceptions. So, before I even dive into my personal stories, let's clarify what masculine and feminine energies are like. To sum it up, masculine is more the go-go-go, doer energy that gets things done, while the feminine energy is more about being present, going with the flow, and trusting oneself. Both are beautiful, and both are needed. Despite their names, they have nothing to do with gender; anyone can tune into both.
What I find funny is that there is a common misconception that if you travel you must be very go-go-go energy, someone who is constantly chasing new places and ticking off to-do and to-see lists. While this can be true, I think that a lot of people don't expect travelling to enable one to stay more present. But at the end of the day that is the whole point of travelling. It pressures you, in the best way possible, to really enjoy every moment because everything eventually comes to an end. Travelling is here to remind us that even good things have an expiry date and instead of running around like headless chickens, we could focus on just being and existing. Like when you drink your coffee rushing around in the morning is not something that is likely to happen on holiday or while you're travelling. You are more likely to enjoy the moment and savour every sip of it while you can.
Now with that longer intro, let me share my findings and how travelling helped me to connect with my feminine.
I learned to be more intuitive:
This is true especially when you travel solo, sometimes there will be no one around you to ask for help or opinion, so the only thing that you can really do is listen to your gut feeling or intuition. This definitely takes practice and is something that will come in handy in other areas of your life too. There is no better feeling in the world than when you feel like you're on the right path and knowing that you can trust yourself. If you are used to having to listen to other people around you and constantly compromising, this can also be a very liberating and equally eye-opening experience. You suddenly realise that the only person you have to come to an agreement with is you, but the only person you can blame for a wrong decision is also you. So, if you ignored your gut feeling and went the wrong way or chose the wrong bus, there will be no one else to blame. The tricky part is, a lot of people mistake their intuition for their ego. But the two are completely different. Your ego will want to go for the easy, realistic, and short-term satisfaction options, which may not serve you long term. Your intuition, on the other hand, will help you make bold decisions with confidence, even if these decisions don't make sense in that moment, something will tell you 'this is the right thing to do.'
I learned to slow the f*ck down:
When I started travelling there was a little bit of an internal pressure in me to tick off as many locations on my bucket list as possible. Luckily, this was only a short phase, but slowing down is something I had to learn. We live in a world where feminine energy is not as glorified as masculine energy. I mean imagine someone writing a LinkedIn post about how they sat this morning, enjoying their morning coffee and connecting with the present moment...versus someone writing a whole post about their latest achievements. Right? So, I also felt like I always had to do something to prove my worth, to prove that I am capable. Only to realise that my superpower lies in knowing when to get work or things done, and when to just slow down and enjoy. No to-do or to-see lists, just watching the sunset or taking a long walk by the beach. This also helped me to move away from the 'midlife crisis' mindset. You know when you are suddenly realising you haven't done enough and want to fit everything into a short period of time. Yes, try to fit as much into your travel plans as you can, but also keep in mind that all the places you visit will always be there and you can always return. In the last few years, I actually ended up going back to places I had already been to, and saw them from a different perspective. This is also how I ended up skipping Sagrada Familia in Barcelona the first time and went back years later again, this time taking the full tour. You don't always have to chase the next place or thing to do. Sometimes being is enough, especially if busy travel plans stress you out. Being stressed while abroad is never the goal.
It helped me romanticise my life:
And I don't mean it in the 'let's buy red roses and take pictures in front of the Eiffel-tower' romantic (although nothing wrong with that). I mean it the small moments romantic. A lot of people go on holiday and end up doing simple things and ask themselves, why don't I do this more often, why do I let my life rush by when I'm at home. People naturally find it easier to take a step back when they travel, but that mindset can go further than your trip. Yes, the background may not be the same, but you can still go for soul-filling long walks or take a minute every day to just breath or sip your tea/coffee. The romance is to be found in the little details. What I like to do is take a small item with me from my trips that reminds me of the given culture's approach to enjoying small moments and romanticise them (yes, every culture has something we can learn from).
I learned to let go and trust the process:
If you are under the impression that you can always keep everything under control, you are wrong. And I am here to call you out on this one with love. When you are stuck in the grey weekdays, it is easy to think that you 100% control your life. But when you go travelling and realise how many things need to fall into place and work out perfectly for you to be able to follow a precise plan, you are humbled quickly. This is why I implemented my 60%-40% mentality. About 60% of the time I have things organised, planned, booked and, seemingly, under control. But in the 40%? I am the most spontaneous person you have ever met. This mentality has helped me so much to deal with unexpected turns and just trust that no matter how annoying a situation may seem, everything always works out for me. This approach is also super useful when I organise girls' trips (which I do on a regular basis). Having that 40% open to discussion, free time for everyone or optional activities brings so much calm and flexibility into any trip. There will always be things out of your control when you travel and if you get too caught up by this, you are not only wasting your energy but could also be wasting your money and time.
As you can see, travelling has a magical way of showing us parts of ourselves we didn’t know were there — or perhaps, had forgotten. For me, the biggest gift of travelling has been has been reconnecting with my feminine energy: listening to my intuition, slowing down to savour the moment, and letting go of the need to control every detail. The truth is, these lessons aren’t just for the road — they can transform the way we live every single day. You don’t have to be boarding a plane to tune into that softer, more present side of yourself. It’s about carrying that energy with you, no matter where you are.
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